The massage is outside amidst lush tropical gardens in Hawaii overlooking the ocean in my private “hale.” Gentle breezes brush my naked body. The sounds of the ocean calm my mind, body and soul. The silence allows my body to float with ecstasy receiving the warmth of the shells as I close my eyes and allow my body to receive it ALL. The massage ends with my body awakening in absolute bliss. I am told to take all the time I want to enjoy the breezes, the moment. My hand slips downward toward my “magic genie” clitoris. Reaching over with my other hand, I find the tube of Aloe Cadabra scent of French Lavender that I brought along for this moment, hoping I could experience this. My hands join together in the touch, the stroking, and the bliss. The aloe feels smooth and silky and blends with the smell of the Hawaiian island flowers in the garden. I feel so alive in every cell of my body, mind, and soul. I am coming, coming, coming… into joy that goes beyond everything I have ever known. I savor this moment, and will always!
My lover and I are alone on the beach. The dolphins are dancing gracefully in the water before us! The sun warms our bodies. The water sparkles as the dolphins circle and play. As we embrace, we feel a gentle breeze. We watch their dance to their own music. Such amazing creatures! Playfully we attempt to “dance” and move like them… then laugh as we fall together onto our beach blankets, avoiding the sand, and protecting the Mai Tai’s. This is an experience of bliss… as we gently massage each other happy that we have this time together to simply “BE.” (not have to “DO”) Can we be this smooth and graceful?… perhaps if we slow down to enjoy every moment. Let’s make this moment last forever. We each reach for some juicy Aloe Cadabra, warmed by the sun… the picture on the tube IS that graceful movement like the dolphins! Slowly as we stroke our bodies, we come to a moment of true ecstasy… the music of our bodies crescendos, the orchestra joins together, and the climax of the music opens our bodies and souls joyously with gratitude for this experience. Let’s dance some more! Thank you dolphins.
Carolyn Braddock, Dr. Aloe
Educator, Consultant, Author of Body Voices
Aloe Cadabra is “As Natural as Nature.” This product clearly fits with my work of over 40 years of specializing in trauma, and especially Sexual Trauma, which can clearly manifest in difficulties in relationships and sexual expression. (Sexual expression is one of my most favorite topics… besides golf.) I wanted to be able to help survivors to explore their sexuality, learn about sexual feelings, and FEEL them with the help of a product that is natural, and gentle, and free of harmful chemicals. There is an episode of a TV show, a young women describes an orgasm as “God waking up inside me.” To unwind sexual trauma is to celebrate the body, mind and spirit as a whole, what I call the many body voices of the body….hence my book called Body Voices.
When trauma is unwound, sexual expression may also be a celebration of a healthy, trusting, and loving relationship. The FIRST step in healing is AWARENESS, developing an awareness of what is being spoken and thought as well as awareness of body responses, sensations and feelings. The sexual journey is a rich one, demanding that we wholly explore, experience, and look at the old messages, patterns, and barriers to fullness. Many trauma survivors do not know their bodies – what their bodies look like, how they function, and where certain body parts are located. Then of course, there are the negative messages, shame and guilt.
I celebrate this natural product of 97% aloe… putting something so natural, clean, and that feels so good, silky, and smooth (not slimy) in such a sacred connection with the body, mind, and soul. The product is balanced and therefore helps to balance the user.
I know that my many years of experience (and silver hair) in the field of psychology, sexuality, and working with sexual trauma manifestations with clients and therapists nationally and internationally, would be valuable in helping to find a sexual lubricant product that looks good, feels good, and IS GOOD! Celebrate this product being available to help with the discovery of Self…the Self that is unwinding the trauma, to learn what feels good by experimenting with touching the body, and experiencing sensations….old feelings that may reoccur and remember the trauma, and new ones that empower. Experiment with a vibrator. Aloe Cadabra won’t harm sex toys. Go slowly…notice the feelings and where the body begins to awaken to sensations. Notice the thoughts. As a sensation begins to intensify, relax into it, and “ride the wave.” You are in charge of YOU now! This is YOUR body that belongs to YOU. Try out different scents: Natural Aloe, French Lavender, and Tahitian Vanilla.
Check out some of the earlier blog posts for some more ideas!
Let my hair down, be natural, let the mischievous spirit out, and celebrate the wise woman that I am. Raise the flag….as I age I only get better, and sexual activity need NOT cease! I deserve to be slower, and have a deeper more relaxed enjoyment of sex, alone or with a partner. Bring on the Aloe Cadabra, the most magical natural, SMOOTH, and SILKY, JUICY lubricant ever. Bring on the vibrator, or those specially trained fingers who know what I like, and HOW I like it. Touch me all over. Ahhhhhhh. The excitement is building… coming… coming… COMING! I feel great and so relaxed. What a gift to give to me!
In an episode of the TV series, Nip/Tuck, a young woman begins to learn about her body, after recovering from surgery. The amazingly understanding nurse dimmed the lights in her hospital room, and gently and patiently encouraged the young woman to “rub the magic genie.” The orgasm that came was described by the nurse to the doctors as “Houston, we have lift off.” The young woman was in joyful tears as she said “it was like God waking up inside of me.” Such an uplifting and sacred experience.