Suzanne Wintrob, writing for Canada’s National Post in their recent Women’s Health supplement, says that menopause is no time to “shrivel up”, and talks to our own Carolyn Braddock about using lubricant!
Who said that menopause means a loss of libido? Sensuality is possible at any age as long a woman takes the time to get in touch with her physical body and her inner soul.
“When you’re under stress, it’s difficult to feel sensual,” says Carolyn Braddock, a U.S.-based educator and Tai Ji advocate. “But fluidity in the mind, body and spirit will create fluidity in the natural lubrication of the physical body.”
While menopausal women often experience a decline in sexual interest, the loss can’t be attributed to vaginal dryness alone. Dr. Nathalie Gamache of the Federation of Medical Women of Canada says hot flashes, insomnia and weight gain – especially when combined with chronic illnesses such as heart disease, arthritis and cancer – can further impair a woman’s sex drive. Medications to treat such conditions can have negative side effects on sexual health, she adds. Unfortunately, women often feel uncomfortable addressing sexual concerns with their doctor.
But people who maintain an active sex life tend to live longer and happier, says Dr. Gamache, and there is help for women of any age to get their groove back. Moisturizers and lubricants can increase comfort during intercourse and enhance the senses. Local estrogen preparation is ideal for severe dryness.
Ms. Braddock wishes more North American women would adopt Eastern thinking where “elder love” is celebrated. Alas, menopausal women this side of the ocean feel they are “shriveling up.” Instead, she urges them to light candles, use lubricant, try sex toys, and listen to their body’s voice.
“If we continue to have good sensual and sexual experiences, we keep the juices flowing which helps to create better health in our organs,” says the 63-year-old spokesperson for Aloe Cadabra lubricant. “Menopause is a magical time. It’s the wise woman who lets her hair down and gets a little mischievous.”