Carolyn Braddock, Dr. Aloe
Educator, Consultant, Author of Body Voices
Aloe Cadabra is “As Natural as Nature.” This product clearly fits with my work of over 40 years of specializing in trauma, and especially Sexual Trauma, which can clearly manifest in difficulties in relationships and sexual expression. (Sexual expression is one of my most favorite topics… besides golf.) I wanted to be able to help survivors to explore their sexuality, learn about sexual feelings, and FEEL them with the help of a product that is natural, and gentle, and free of harmful chemicals. There is an episode of a TV show, a young women describes an orgasm as “God waking up inside me.” To unwind sexual trauma is to celebrate the body, mind and spirit as a whole, what I call the many body voices of the body….hence my book called Body Voices.
When trauma is unwound, sexual expression may also be a celebration of a healthy, trusting, and loving relationship. The FIRST step in healing is AWARENESS, developing an awareness of what is being spoken and thought as well as awareness of body responses, sensations and feelings. The sexual journey is a rich one, demanding that we wholly explore, experience, and look at the old messages, patterns, and barriers to fullness. Many trauma survivors do not know their bodies – what their bodies look like, how they function, and where certain body parts are located. Then of course, there are the negative messages, shame and guilt.
I celebrate this natural product of 97% aloe… putting something so natural, clean, and that feels so good, silky, and smooth (not slimy) in such a sacred connection with the body, mind, and soul. The product is balanced and therefore helps to balance the user.
I know that my many years of experience (and silver hair) in the field of psychology, sexuality, and working with sexual trauma manifestations with clients and therapists nationally and internationally, would be valuable in helping to find a sexual lubricant product that looks good, feels good, and IS GOOD! Celebrate this product being available to help with the discovery of Self…the Self that is unwinding the trauma, to learn what feels good by experimenting with touching the body, and experiencing sensations….old feelings that may reoccur and remember the trauma, and new ones that empower. Experiment with a vibrator. Aloe Cadabra won’t harm sex toys. Go slowly…notice the feelings and where the body begins to awaken to sensations. Notice the thoughts. As a sensation begins to intensify, relax into it, and “ride the wave.” You are in charge of YOU now! This is YOUR body that belongs to YOU. Try out different scents: Natural Aloe, French Lavender, and Tahitian Vanilla.
Check out some of the earlier blog posts for some more ideas!
We are and have been under extreme pressure to conceive. After all, we are getting to that deadline in age. Each time we try to conceive, we both get nervous, and it just becomes an exercise in pushing the limit. Let’s try something else. Imagine all the cells in the body ready to receive. Scan your body. If there are some cells that are not ready to receive, simply ask them what they might need in order to receive. This may sound a bit crazy, but it does help to explore what the blocks are to conceiving. Listen carefully to the wonderful wisdom of the body. This is what is called a “full body response.” Then check out the images that may be coming up. Observe, notice, and gather information about those images. Do not try to fix or change them. Those images might just guide you into another image. Use some lubricant so you can take the time to explore those images….SLOWLY. Relax into the feeling of connection to your body, and to your partner’s body, and/or to the receiving of sperm to join with the egg in creation.
“This lubrication rocks! It only enhances the feeling of my dance of life. And what an incredible satisfying dance it is. I love the different scents which I call flavors…..ahhhhhh…. French Lavender, Tahitian Vanilla, and of course for those natural times in the deep woods of life…..Natural Aloe.”
Many slang words do not reflect the positive affirmation of the body. It is difficult for many to even say the word “vagina.” In seminars for trauma survivors, women have named their vagina’s Virginia or Flower, whatever comes lovingly to mind. Later someone sent me a T-Shirt with the printing “I Love Virgina” (naming the state of Virginia)…which was then was changed by several women to “I Love My Virginia.” Later on, it became easier to say “vagina.”