OK, I am waiting for my body and me to join together in a new phase of life. I am aging gracefully, I thought. Then, my secret….vaginal dryness and resulting low libido. I finding out all kinds of information especially how common this issue is. My body and me begin to dialogue. “Body tell me what is happening…down there.”
The body responds….”I do not feel safe. You have been pushing me to have sex when I do not want to. Sometimes I do not even feel acknowledged that I am there. You demand a lot of me…you keep asking me to hurry. Don’t you know that I have had natural changes in hormone levels that means that I am producing less lubrication? When I feel pressure from you, I shut down the systems. Yes, I become dry. I hope you will begin listening to me. Help me out here.
“Body, what do you want me to hear?”
The body responds…”I need you to learn more about me, so gather information about hormone replacement therapy OR NOT. When you exercise, how about exercising me, the vagina, the clitoris? Stock up on the magical and all natural personal lubricant, Aloe Cadabra, in all three scents: Natural Aloe, Tahitian Vanilla, and French Lavender. Let’s have some magic getting to know each other gently and playfully. BE PATIENT.” Let’s keep talking…..coffee or tea…some fine wine?
For some women the lack of libido is in decline. So why not practice some Tai Ji, and Qi Gong which is focused on bringing the life force energy and “chi” into the body/mind/and spirit. Move the body. Put on some favorite music. The body knows what to do. Imagine the chi, life energy awakening inside your body. Each cell, each joint, each muscle, awakens to new life. Don’t worry about the form. Just move and enjoy, and PLAY. Then notice inside your body. What do you experience? Do you feel the “juices” of the life energy flowing? Do you feel fluid? Enjoy your body.